Combat fatherhood

 If you thought this was gonna be a piece of cake, please set your cheap ass plastic fork down, along with your paper plate and let me tell you that it isn’t. Its ok. I drank the Kool aid too. I thought this new life would be so much easier than my old life. I can handle little kids. Hell, I was the boss of some adults who acted like little kids. Except these little kids now, well, they are a lot slicker than any E-4 I ever met. If you're old like me, you remember that “we do more before 9AM, before you do all day” Army commercial? With the guy saying good morning to his First Sergeant, hoisting his canteen cup of coffee in some victorious manner? Im not gonna lie. I would probably kill you for that cup of coffee.With an E-tool. There’s no time for that nonsense. This is combat fatherhood. Before you get your silkies or ranger panties or whatever the hell you wear in a bunch, I am not comparing actual, bullets flying combat with this. But in this life, we have our oporders(1) too. My day is planned the day before,kids clothes are set out, homework is signed, order of movement(2) is set. Fragos(3) happen the first time my 6 year old can’t find the socks her sisters hid from her, and those kids clam up like bad guys when they know they're caught. The eyes never lie. My 10 year old has ditched the 6 year old for the bus stop, so that means she is getting a ride to school and we will be crossing MSR “insane fucking traffic” and ASR “They should have finished building this road 3 years ago”. My 12 year old is trying to sneak some makeup on her face, but ends up looking like a village person, but she's trying and its a hard time in this day and age for 12 year olds and their instatwitterbookgramsnap, or whatever the new social media obsession  is this week. The 2 year old, fresh out of a slumber, kind of like that fireguard you had in basic training where you are there in physical, but definitely not mental form is in the car seat. The 6 year old wants a hash brown and with that, the time line is screwed. 

This is the life. When I took off my uniform for the last time, with all its cool velcro parts and patches and badges, I switched it for basketball shorts, one of several T-shirts from my favorite veteran owned business, RangerUp and shoes, if I felt like it. This clothing liberation and relaxed grooming standards is comfortable, but it is a steep price. The kids are at school, the 2 year old now needs her breakfast and I have several dogs who have crossed paws and need to go outside and pee before they ruin the house. Breakfast is down the hatch and I chuck(or gently place) the baby in her stroller for a walk. This kid loves being outside. She loves the wind and the Texas sun on her face. It is safe to say, at least once a month during, or shortly after this walk,that I will get a call from the school. Someone forgot a notebook, or some random pencil that they need, or life will cease to exist. Back to school. This is also a great time to stop at Wal Mart and get gawked at by the stay at home moms, who see a fairly large, heavily bearded and overly casually dressed guy walking around with a small child in a shopping cart. I think I have almost had the cops called on me more than once, but if someone takes a kid, do you think they go to the store right away? I can’t be the only one who watches law and order. Profiling assholes. 

If this is appealing to you, I invite you to a diaper change. Its like a combination of Baghdad burn pits, Afghani sewer problems and that soiled smell of death. Diapers don't work all the time. I wish I could take every defective diaper back and get a replacement. Sometimes they don't hold so well. Sometimes poo comes out the side. Sometimes your daughter gets like three baths a day because of said faulty diapers, peanut butter that she wipes in her hair at lunch and then when she goes all “Randy” from A Christmas Story and becomes Daddies little piggie and sticks her face and part of her body in her dinner. This kid. I don't mean to foreshadow, but its gonna happen, keep your ammo dry, gents. As kids begin to trickle in from school, the 6 year old instantly wants to go next door to play, the 10 year old has choir and needs to be picked up, so the 2 year old, who is running 24 hour ops is getting her nap time kanked and put back in the truck. She will fall asleep, either on the way there or the way back, but waking her up once we are home is like trying to wake a honey badger up. Best of luck, this kid likes her sleep when she gets it. I get the 10 year old. Since she knows what bad words are, no Howard Stern. I throw on some Willie or Josh Abbott Band and she instantly hates it, because they don't sing poppy,crappy, auto tuned music.  After another diaper change, she is up watching “Frozen” for the 19 millionth time. This week. I have dreams about this movie. I have a sled and I'm selling ice. In South Texas. You cant even say “ice” before it has already melted down here. I truly hate this movie. My 12 year old wants to hang out and not come home, but with some not so gentle prodding, she is on her way home from the bus stop. The 6 year old has soccer practice at 6, so its a mad dash to find her shorts and practice shirt. I know where her cleats are, because the 2 year old is is doing from “Frozen” inspired river dance, on the living room floor. 

This is my life. The idea of being a stay at home dad seemed so romantic at the time. Kind of like when you crossed the berm into Iraq for the first time, or you were on the plane for a legit combat landing. The romance of that moment is lost the first time you get shot at. The romance of being a stay at home dad was lost the first time my daughter took off a full diaper and was running around the house with it, flinging things everywhere. This is not to say that there aren't victories. The 2 year old giving random hugs, the 6 year old saying “yes sir” like a proper young lady, my 10 year old getting a solo for her next choir concert and my 12 year old having consecutive good days at school(which is almost scientifically impossible for someone her age) and then telling me about people I don't know for an hour and how this one broke up with that one and that one got in a fight at lunch. These are the victories, the victories I missed in my past life. This is the life I live now. If you thought it would be so simple, throw on some basketball shorts and forget about that fucking coffee. 

1) OPORDER ( Operations order. Basically, what you're gonna do)

2) Order of movement (who leaves in what order)

3) FRAGO (Fragmentation order. When shit changes)